Our series of book recommendations to empower talent and fuel brands.

Why Perpetual recommends it
Michael Gelb’s The Art of Connection distils seven relationship-building skills leaders need now, drawing on Gelb’s long background studying creativity and applying it to the very human skill of genuine connection at work. Gelb argues that in an increasingly digital, distributed and distracted workplace, the ability to connect authentically has become a competitive advantage rather than a soft skill.
The book moves through practical skills like deep listening, asking better questions, and reading body language and tone with more precision, each grounded in exercises rather than theory alone. Gelb is particularly interested in presence, the specific, learnable practice of being fully attentive to the person in front of you rather than mentally drafting your response while they’re still speaking.
What we find most useful is Gelb’s insistence that connection is trainable, not innate. Leaders who consider themselves naturally awkward or introverted can build genuine relational skill through deliberate practice, the same way they’d build any other professional competency.
This is a good match for our coaching philosophy: presence and connection are treated as leadership competencies to be developed, not personality traits people are simply born with or without.
- Genuine connection is a competitive advantage, not just a soft skill
- Deep listening and presence can be deliberately practised, not just naturally possessed
- Asking better questions builds connection faster than offering better answers
- Reading tone and body language accurately is a trainable skill
A simple practice worth trying is going into your next one-on-one with the explicit goal of asking more questions than you answer.
We give this book three and a half out of five stars.